HAIIRO-NO-KAMI
@haiiro-no-kami
While you live, shine. Have no grief at all. Life exists only for a short while, and Time demands his due.
8 minutes agoerzvolnes

poll time because something my mother said pissed me off lmao

do you remove or shave your body hair (on your legs, under your arms, etc)?

all the time

i don't really care for shaving but i do it because of society

sometimes but not always

never

if i remember to

i don't have any body hair that is worth shaving tbh

and in the tags tell me your gender and age?

35 minutes agoamemait

I find it fascinating that people who choose not to have children are generally assumed to feel really strongly about not having children (or even to feel really strongly against children, anyone’s children, in general). I am probably not going to have children, not because I REALLY REALLY HATE the idea of having children, but because I don’t really really love it. Out of all the major decisions I will make in my life, this one is the only irreversible one. I can sell a house, quit a job, divorce a spouse, whatever. I cannot unhave a child. I cannot opt out of being a parent once I become a parent. I can’t even take a step back for the sake of self-care or whatever, or else my child will suffer.

So for me, having children is fuck yes or not at all. The default will be to remain childfree. Having children should be an opt-in decision, not an opt-out one. Until/unless I develop really strong feelings about wanting to have children, I won’t have them, even if that means I never end up having them at all.

Sometimes you just come across something that puts into words what you have yet been unable to.

1 hour agoninesofeight

hhhrk. gggrrrg. *changes several core aspects of your personality when you’re not looking*

normally this would infuriate me but I feel uncharacteristically calm and forgivibg

3 hours agotiny--cryptid

OK this question has been bugging me all morning so y'all please let me know

did your childhood vomit bowl also double as a popcorn bowl?

Yes

No

Vomit bowl??? (see results)

bc ours did nd I never thought much of it as a kid but know I'm thinking about it and it feels kinda gross? so pls tell me if this experience was universal or not it will haunt me forever otherwise

16 hours agoriessene

I will never get over how weird it feels to have tragic and emotional chapters of your life where you just also still go to work, and the grocery store, and see funny videos online all while feeling such paralyzing fear and heartache

life just goes on no matter what

17 hours agopunsbulletsandpointythings

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This right here is the essence of why I love this show. It's a makeover show, but it's not just about telling people how they should look or eat or live and making them conform to it. The Fab Five really do focus on what the person needs and what is going to work for their life. Tan doesn't tell Joey that he needs to shower every day, because the fact is, Joey's not going to do that. It's not something that feels good to him and it's not practical for his life. Furthermore, telling someone to shower more isn't actually helpful, it just makes them feel shamed.

Instead, Tan gives Joey ways to stay fresher and cooler without needing to shower more often. He's not trying to change Joey's overall behavior, he's trying to give him clothing that suits that behavior. It's not about dressing how he's "supposed to," it's about dressing in a way that works for him and makes him feel better.

Plus, like, when Joey cares more about taking care of himself, he'll probably shower more often on his own anyway. If you can get him to care, the rest will follow.